Transformation through Grief

Grief, loss or unexpected results through a decision or something that you had absolutely no choice in.

Being aware of this, not denying, discounting making excuses for, justifying, or covering something you cannot change. Awareness. Allowing yourself to experience the feelings as a result of this fact, brings in truth.

When it comes to a time you have to make a decision or take a particular direction or action, all you can do is based on all you know at that given time. You do the best you can with the knowledge you know at that time. But sometimes you may receive information that if had at the time you took a particular action you would not have taken that action. It may turn out that you made a “mistake”, that is not to hold self-blame and this is your fault. Sure you could reflect did I do my part and diligently seek God’s word in this. Maybe no maybe yes ……. But that decision as it turned out was not the best decision. If all the understanding was clear would you have done the same thing? I think not. I know for myself I was extremely hard on myself when as you say things “messed up” until the word of God showed me the truth. First you need not have the smallest crack open to the enemy, he will work it until it is a mess. And point a finger at you accusing you day and night.

You are to do what is right in the sight of the Lord. So if whatever you do, Jesus can be right there with you chances are it will work.  But if you do make a decision and it does not work out the way you intended. You are not to condemn yourself as to bring condemnation on you. The accuser will in fact try to block your healing by having you hold resentment on yourself. When you call yourself “stupid” or say “how could I be so blind” or “what was I thinking.” You are talking about God’s child. You are not allowing forgiveness and healing. Be it another person or yourself.

I have good news God your Father is there to help you through it all.

“And in that day you shall ask me nothing. Verily, verily, I say unto you, whatsoever you shall ask the Father (your Father) in my name he will give it you. God is your father, if Christ is our Lord.

To bring healing you strive for acceptance. Of yourselves, other people, your past and your present circumstances.  Why? Acceptance brings peace, healing, truth and with that truth freedom. Take any situation you do not want to be. Examples; my mother had Alzheimer, or you married someone who was unfaithful.

No matter if it was a choice you made that didn’t turn out right or completely out of your choice process. You still have a choice in that matter. How you allow it to affect you and what you do with your feelings.

When you accept something it does not mean or indicate you are in agreement with the matter. It just means you are willing to admit you are powerless in this, or you could say it this way I do not like this but the truth is I cannot change it. But God can bring healing.

I specially didn’t use the word “fix”.  In my observation He heals. Fix to me is like taking broken pieces and putting them back together. Can God put pieces back together? Sure. What does the word say God replenishes or restores makes new. In the past I would think of God mending a broken heart. But I have through my own experience learned He brings healing by completely restoring renewing, by the renewing of our mind and having the mind of Christ. Does it happen overnight some things yes and some take time reading the word of God.  It is not that it takes God longer it is you and how well you receive His healing. How much time you spend in His presence and word and how willing are you to turn it over. I also know in my own experience with not one reservation He is right there every step of the way, always right there with you.  No matter how fast or how long it may take you.

To bring healing to your emotions your spirit man, the mind will and emotions. You have to know, be aware of what you are feeling, and know your grief. Sometimes that grief may be tied to a belief and that belief may be in conflict with a value you hold. What is the truth? It is the word of God that will bring truth that brings full healing. You then can also forgive fully when you realize that it is 1 out of your hands, you do not control it. 2 if it is a person then that is between God and the person. You accept the truth of what the word of God says and receive healing peace and freedom in your forgiveness and letting go.  3 if it is loss of something or even time itself, God can restore, you can find it in the word. There is not one thing that you can go through that the answer is not able to be found in the word. 4 If it is someone you have loss of through death, experience this feeling acknowledge your grief but sorrow not as not having hope. One day you will be united. Always look to the word of God.

Healing only comes from God’s hand. Think on this; you break an arm the Doctor puts the bone together puts a cast on it and then what? Healing comes. You may cut yourself clean it up put a band aid on it and then what? Healing comes. God is the one that causes it to heal. To replenish and be restored. With the word of God, no matter what is going on, the word always brings truth that when received brings healing. Sometimes we have to continue in a particular truth until that truth sinks in and becomes a part of our value and belief that remove all old distorted thinking.  Just like that cast you have to keep on your arm. You may say but there will be a scar. Maybe and maybe not it will depend on you.

But Healing always comes!

Clarity is always best in the light!

Indi Fratarcangelo CPC

 

Indi Fratarcangelo
Certified Professional Life Coach
         

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